Sizing for Sissy Panties

To figure out what size you’ll wear in panties, you need to take some measurements and look up a size chart! Here’s an example size chart from Aerie, one of my favorite stores for sissy panties! Once you have your measurements, you can easily see what size you’ll need. It is definitely worth taking the time to get your measurements instead of just guessing at size.

Type of Fabric

Satin, cotton, lace… There are lots of options for panty fabrics! But for sissy panties, I have two strong preferences every time: lace for sexy times, cotton for practical times. All sissies should have a couple pairs of both types! Typically these will want to align with the style you pick, as well.

Panty Style

As we see in the diagram above, there are many styles to choose from as well! I always recommend thongs and cheekies to my sissies. The cheekies are best as cotton panties to wear during the day at work, and the thongs should be lacy and super sexy!

Color for Sissy Panties

This one should be pretty obvious — look for sexy colors! Pinks, reds, and purples. I’ll occasionally allow a light blue or white as well. Black is usually boring, and yellow is rarely flattering.

Sinful Sissy Club

If you’re a sissy who found this information useful, I would hope you’re already a member of my mailing list and my sinful sissy club! If you’re not, here’s where you can sign up: https://thepurplehailstorm.com/club/

I can be found on social media, as well as a bunch of clip stores, all listed below! If you enjoyed this article, please be sure to leave a comment, join my mailing list and get a free video, share it on social media, or even make a purchase!

I released a video recently, titled “Inferior Bitch”. This was a custom video, but I had a lot of fun filming it! More importantly, it was one of my first videos really focusing on female supremacy, with a nice dose of humiliation along with it.

Here was the description for that video:

You are a weak, inferior, useless beta bitch. You don’t deserve to be in the presence of superior and gorgeous women like myself. All you’re capable of doing is jerking off in a corner. The very least you could do is kneel and worship me. But even then, you have nothing to offer me.

The intent was for the viewer to be VERY humiliated, and for the viewer to know that he is worthless in comparison to beautiful women. That women are superior to him in every way possible, and that’s just the way it always will be!

What is female supremacy?

Here is how Vice defines female supremacy:

Female supremacy is the belief that women are inherently superior to men, and we should build a society that reflects that. Most of the people who espouse it, perhaps unsurprisingly, are really into BDSM.

vice.com

While this definition touches the very basics of it, it does not quite dive into the motivations of female supremacy.

In my experience as a Domme, this fetish is very frequently tied in with humiliation. Men want to be humiliated for who they are, and of course they know at least something about the history of sexism. They feel that they deserve to be humiliated for this!

Some men are aware of their male privilege, and use female supremacy as a way to counter that. They actively reject their privilege, instead deciding all women are above them.

Personally, I quite enjoy it! From multiple perspectives, even: the selfish one, because I obviously benefit from it; the academic one, given my background in social sciences; and the social one, knowing that all my gal-friends and I are among the elite.

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Blackmail Fantasy Is A Popular Fetish, Indeed

“Goddess, I want you to blackmail me. Take everything. Ruin me.”

“My wife would divorce me if she knew about this. I want you to tell her if I don’t pay.”

“Is your blackmail real? Or are you just pretending?”

Blackmail seems to be one of the most popular fetishes among the femdom clip creation scene, with no intentions of slowing down any time soon! And it definitely seems to attract a large audience of blackmail fantasy junkies, in a sense.

What is it that attracts so many people to this fetish?

Some speculate that it’s merely the thrill. A thrill just like many others: skydiving, voyeurism, or even auto erotic asphyxiation. The thrill that if the blackmail really happens, and if you don’t do what you’ve supposed to, your life will more or less be ruined.

Blackmail can provide encouragement for some to push their limits, when maybe they would have chickened out otherwise. I’ve used blackmail with submissives myself to help them suck cock for the first time, send larger tributes, or become a proper anal slut!

Blackmail Fantasy, or Blackmail Reality?

Some clip creators specifically say that it is all fantasy. Others specifically say that it is not just a fantasy, such as in my own clip, “Blackmail is not just a fantasy”.

Miss Faith Rae has a wonderful article about this as well, going a bit more into the ethics and legalities of blackmail. Since she did such a great job of covering those, I won’t attempt to top that!

Instead, I will discuss a little bit more about how I handle blackmail in my own play, and I’ll let you decide if it’s reality, or blackmail fantasy.

Required information from new blackmail slaves

In order to blackmail someone, I need information to blackmail them with. So I initially require all blackmail slaves to send the contact information for a wife, boss, business partner, or similar. Someone who makes this a high stakes game. I also will get their legal name, of course.

Many slaves lie about this information, of course. For them it really is blackmail fantasy only, and they don’t want to give out their legal information. And that is fair. That’s what they were looking for all along, so they’re just playing safely!

However, if someone is being… Problematic, in a sense… I have been known to discreetly verify contact information and demand a copy of ID. Take that as you will.

That being said, I also ask for a safe word.

BDSM play often works with one of two tenets: Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC), or Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK). Blackmail fantasy usually practices RACK, because giving out real information might not be considered safe and sane! So it’s necessary to be aware of the risks, while still always keeping it consensual. A safe word helps ensure that consent is never violated, even when situations and play becomes very intense.

Today, I’d like to address one of my favorites: coffee creamer!

It’s as simple as it sounds. All you have to do is make a cup of coffee, then cum into it!

Why I Love This Method

There are a few reasons why coffee creamer is one of my main go-to’s when I’m giving cum eating instructions.

1. It’s easy! I work with a lot of CEI beginners. Drinking their cum from a cup of coffee may have fewer mental road blocks than eating it out of their hand.
2. It’s perfect for discreet play. Want to cum into your thermos and then bring that to work? You can be sipping on cum at the office, no one will ever know!
3. Almost everyone has coffee in their house. If you don’t have coffee, tea will do just fine too. This makes it plenty convenient as a way to make cum eating more fun!

I talk about this method even more in my video about it, which you can find here on ManyVids!

Other Favorite Cum Eating Methods

Obviously, I have a few more CEI favorites up my sleeve. The best way to find out more of them is to check out my CEI videos on my clip sites, or have a Kik session/phone call with me!

Besides cumming into your cup of coffee, I have other ways I like to incorporate CEI and food products! Salad dressing, ice cubes, soup and more. I have been thinking about making a whole video series of my favorite CEI methods! What do you think? Let me know in the comments if you think I should film more videos with my favorite methods!

Where to find more of me

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A cock rate is basically what it sounds like — I look at some photos of your dick, and tell you what I think! Typically I cover the size of it, including length and girth, shape, and grooming.

I also like to talk about your photography, so I can teach you to take the best possible dick pic!

Types of cock rates

Typically, there are 3 major types of cock rates: Text only, Kik videos, or downloadable.

A text only rate is exactly what it sounds like: Your dick rate is written out! There are no images or videos accompandied.

A Kik cock rate can vary a little. Sometimes it will be live videos (15 seconds or less) sent through Kik, other times it will be longer videos (up to 2 minutes each). Personally, I prefer to do the longer videos. My “Quick Kik Cock Rates” are usually 3-4 minutes long, sent through those longer videos.

Finally, the downloadable rates are my most popular! Filmed in 1080p, a downloaded rate is typically longer than a Kik rate, and is one continuous video; no need to stop every 2 minutes!

For my downloadable rates, I also like to include name use and an outfit request, for free! They are typically 7-10 minutes.

Common cock rate add-ons

There are many available add-ons for cock rates, some of which I offer myself! I will also mention some that are commonly available, although I personally don’t offer it.

Nudity is one of the biggest! Some sellers always include nudity in their rates, others do not. I include it in my downloadable dick rates, but it’s an add-on for a Kik rate.

HD video is commonly included in a downloadable cock rate, but not guaranteed. Mine are always HD!

My cock rates are all either standard or humiliation. I consider humiliation to be an add-on, since it’s not the default option, but there’s no additional fee for it! Many offer cock worship as well; I do not.

Finally, masturbation and/or JOI during the dick rate is a popular add-on! I do not offer this.

How to send photos

For a downloadable dick rate, I will typically ask you to upload your photos to a private album on Imgur.com. I’ll want 2-3 photos from different angles!

For a Kik rate, generally it’s fine for you to just send the photos right there in the Kik app. It does not matter if they are live or were taken previously. The most important part is to still give me a couple of different angles!

Get your own professional cock rate!

Do you think you want your own professional cock evaluation? Check out my Reddit wiki for the most current prices and details on what I’m offering, as well as the available payment methods!

As of right now, September 2020, I’m offering Quick Kik Cock Rates at $35, and downloadable rates at $65.

Why are jerk off instruction videos so popular? Two months ago, I wrote my first blog post on jerk off instruction. I discussed whether I thought it qualified as a fetish, and what I believe makes it so popular! This post got a fair bit of attention, and some comments on Reddit about it as well. I would like to now address these comments and continue the discussion!

Two common themes emerged from the comments: Wanting a variety in your porn, and a desire for intimacy!

Porn Variety

I first noticed a few comments that people just wanted something different in their porn!

“Regular porn is usually pretty boring at this point.”

https://www.reddit.com/r/JerkingInstruction/comments/bknazh/i_wrote_an_article_as_a_content_creator_talking/emvrhq4/

This was a bit surprising to me, but certainly interesting! “Regular porn” has become boring. For the purposes of this discussion, I’m going to interpret “Regular porn” as mainstream, boy/girl vanilla sex porn, though I know it can be much more than that! This interpretation does require me to take a bit of a different perspective than usual. As a content creator, I usually view my own jerk off instruction videos as pretty regular! I makes lots of them, they more or less appeal to the masses, aren’t very niche, and jerk off instruction videos aren’t exactly hard to find.

“I just like it because I am into dirty talk and don’t want to watch girls getting fucked all the time.”

https://thepurplehailstorm.com/jerk-off-instruction-the-most-popular-fetish/

If I were looking at only these two comments, I would start to wonder why JOI fills the void for more variety. Why not something more specific, such as a fetish? It’s a common joke among the internet that everyone starts off with mainstream porn, and gradually progresses to more and more extreme things to satisfy their needs and not get bored! So why turn to JOI?

Turns out, the intimacy of jerk off instruction videos is why.

The Intimacy of JOI

JOI videos seem to fulfill a rather unique need — the need for intimacy, human connection, and something that feels more personal.

“. . . what I can say about myself is that my favorite part of JOI is the intimacy . . . she’s talking directly to the viewer and making a temporary connection that isn’t there in other videos.”

https://www.reddit.com/r/joi/comments/bk7rzz/i_wrote_an_article_as_a_content_creator_talking/emf5wer/

I believe that every JOI I have filmed meets this intimacy to some degree. They are always in the style of me talking directly to the viewer, focusing on them as my only concern in the moment. I try to let that connection feel as real and authentic as possible.

“They want to watch someone talking to them . . .One way or the other , there is at least some interaction – point of view – roleplay , and that is something that mainstream porn does not provide.”

https://thepurplehailstorm.com/jerk-off-instruction-the-most-popular-fetish/

I think this quote helps explain why turning to more extreme videos or specific fetishes does not satisfy people when looking for something beyond mainstream porn. It’s rare for videos with multiple performers to be in the style of addressing the viewer. There certainly are some exceptions to this, though, such as my Two Girl JOI with Cum Countdown, or the Cum on Our Tits JOI! Many fetish videos are filmed simply for a voyeur perspective — getting to watch the action, but never being addressed.

“The intimacy of JOI is a big part, the breaking of the 4th wall provides a pseudo customization to the viewer and that is more stimulating than watching some dude’s ass as he pounds into woman.”

https://www.reddit.com/r/joi/comments/bk7rzz/i_wrote_an_article_as_a_content_creator_talking/emgvlwp/

I’m really appreciating opening up this conversation, because this is giving me some great food for thought! Almost all of the videos I film tend to… Essentially smash the fourth wall into tiny pieces. I am constantly talking to the viewer, including them in the fun, even if it’s not JOI — for example, my roleplay videos almost always share this style as well. I suspect this is something that may be more limited to solo, independent content creators. It’s obvious while looking at that now, but not something I had ever previously considered.

“Yeah I agree more with this interpretation. JOI makes the porn feel more interactive and immediate, like there’s an exchange between you and the performer. I find it’s much easier to focus on the actual act of masturbation, to really get into it when I’m trying to follow a beautiful woman’s instructions rather than just mindlessly pumping to strangers fucking.”

https://www.reddit.com/r/joi/comments/bk7rzz/i_wrote_an_article_as_a_content_creator_talking/emfxvc8/

It makes sense how immersive porn is so much easier to get off to! There is less temptation to get distracted or just zone out, when you’re being talked to directly!

Final Thoughts

“It feels like there is a connection between the model and I. And that makes it interesting, and sexier. I think that plays a part for a lot of us even if we dont realize it. Getting a connection that were not getting through our sex lives or lack there of.

https://www.reddit.com/r/JerkingInstruction/comments/bknazh/i_wrote_an_article_as_a_content_creator_talking/emvrhq4/

So, what do you think? What it is that draws you to JOI? Do you like something new? The intimacy? Do you like a woman talking about your penis? Do you prefer to buy customs where your name is used? Let’s continue this discussion even more!

I filmed my first cuckolding video about one year ago. It was titled “Cuckolding and Teasing You“, and was a custom video. This was my very first introduction to cuckolding. Granted, I knew what it was, but really nothing about it… So I did some research! I learned all about why people like being cuckolded, what kind of things people usually said in cuckold videos, and I became more and more comfortable with it. In fact, I started to enjoy it. Quite a bit, actually.

I went ahead and did some more research on cuckolding after that video, and realized it was something I want to do more of. I added it to my mental list of fetishes to explore more!

How it evolved

Since then, I have done a fair amount more of cuckolding content! More videos, such as “So you want to be my cuckboy?” and many cuckold phone calls and Kik sessions. It may even be one of my most popular call types on NiteFlirt!

Lots of guys love the idea of me with another men. Even more, me with a better man! A man who is more capable, has a better dick, and can do a much better job at pleasing me. I have even done some more extended interactions, such as the Girlfriend/Goddess Experience, with a focus on cuckolding. We get to go out on nice dates, and my cuckboy pays for it all! I do quite enjoy the intersection of cuckolding and financial domination. They pair well together.

Most recent

Most recently, I decided to combine a cuckold and cum eating instructions video, to make “Lick his cum off my tits”! It should come as no surprise at all that this has been a very popular video. Who doesn’t want to be cuckolded by me?

Where to find more of me

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How I Started Giving Cum Eating Instructions

Like most female domination fetishes I have explored over the past few years, cum eating instructions started off as just a request in a Kik session. I was doing a femdom session with someone who wanted CEI, and I obviously wasn’t going to turn it down! I never tried it before, but that’s alright — it can’t be too hard.

And it really wasn’t! As far as fetishes go, cum eating instructions is a pretty simple one. Sure, we can go a little further with it, as I’ll discuss in the next section… But on the surface level, it’s practically a ten second task! Cum into your hand, and lick it all up. Or, if you’re a little extra adventurous (and flexible!), you can angle your hips up and cum straight into your mouth! I have found that most Domme’s do not have their slaves go any further than that, and most slaves have never even thought about doing something more unusual with their cum eating instructions.

Taking Cum Eating Instruction To The Next Level

So, I mentioned the usual techniques for CEI: Cumming into your hand and licking it up, or cumming straight into your mouth.

Honestly, I think those are rather boring. We can do better than that, boys!

I have one video dedicated to me talking about my favorite ways to have men eat their cum for me. It’s quite fun, really. I love thinking outside the box. And when you’re eating a cum-salad dressing while sitting at your desk at work, well, licking cum out of your hand while laying in bed at home just seems so mundane, doesn’t it? That’s why I think we can do better. That’s why I know we can do better.

Ever since that first CEI Kik session, I’ve done a lot more CEI sessions, cam shows, and phone calls. Quite a lot more. And some videos, too! It would be an understatement to say I’ve gotten creative with my cum eating instructions. I like to make you do things that have you saying “Holy shit, I love that idea, I want to cum right away so I can try that out!”

And then, of course, I’ll edge you and make you wait. It’s just part of the fun

Does CEI Make Me Gay/Bi?

This is a common concern I hear whenever I suggest cum eating instructions to someone. “But I’m not gay!” Cool, I guess. Doesn’t matter. CEI doesn’t make you gay!! A little louder for those in the back: Eating cum has nothing to do with being gay or bisexual! It doesn’t. It really doesn’t.

If I was telling you to go out there and eat another man’s cum, well, that would be different. And that is something I do. But that’s not a necessity at all to your usual cum eating instruction. It’s usually a solo thing, truth be told. Just you, your dick, and your orgasm. And maybe some tasty accessories. And maybe me on the other side of the phone. You get the point — no other men required.

So no, you don’t have to be gay to eat your own cum. CEI will not suddenly make you gay. I promise.

Now, if you want the Forced Bi/Make Me Bi element that can come with cum eating instructions, that can definitely be arranged. I also sometimes combine CEI with cuckolding, and that can be particularly fun! What do you think about the idea of licking another man’s cum off my tits?

Respect The Women!

Respecting all the women out there is one of the biggest things I think about when giving cum eating instructions. How many women are expected to eat cum all the time when giving blowjobs? It’s such a normal, everyday expectation. So why are men really all that different? You’re not! You’re not particularly special.

So go ahead, open up, and think about all the women eating cum daily, and how you’re no better than them. I promise you’ll learn to love it!

Chickening Out On Your Cum Eating Instructions

Finally, I want to address a common problem I see when men are given cum eating instructions, or worse, when they attempt eating cum on their own — chickening out.

It is incredibly common. Painfully common, honestly. And it never fails to disappoint me when I’m on a NiteFlirt phone call with a slave who wants to eat his own cum, is desperate to eat his own cum, and has specific instructions for how to do it… And then he immediately hangs up after having his orgasms.

I’m not dumb, boys. I know you’re giving up, chickening out, and you’re too afraid to actually follow through with it.

So how do you overcome it?

Save It For Later!

You save you cum for later! If you know you’ve chickened out on your cum eating instructions in the past, luckily freezers are a thing in practically every household. All you have to do is have a normal orgasm, but not worry about eating your cum. Not that time, at least. Instead, you just have to collect your cum somehow. I usually recommend an ice cube tray, as long as you don’t have roommates or otherwise share a freezer with anyone!

Then, once you cum into the ice cube tray, pop it in the freezer… And next time you’re horny and ready for some proper CEI, all you have to do is take that ice cube tray out, let the cum defrost a little, and eat up!

Where to find more of me

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Jerk off instruction — The most popular fetish, and how I really feel about it!

It was the focus of my first ever custom video with dialogue. It’s an extremely common request for Kik sessions. It leads to some of the most popular videos. What’s the big deal about jerk off instruction (JOI)?

My experiences with jerk off instruction

As I discussed in my article on how I got started with online sex work, the first custom video I took that included dialogue was a jerk off instruction video! But even before that, it was a very common request. I turned down requests for JOI videos all the time.

Whenever I advertise for Kik sessions, I inevitably get a ton of jerk off instruction sessions. When I offer phone calls, I get lots of guys wanting JOI as well — though I don’t always do it on my NiteFlirt calls. Why? I do female domination calls on NiteFlirt. And I personally do not categorize jerk off instruction as female domination. Not by itself, anyway. It kinda bores me after a bit, honestly!

Even though I have tons and tons of JOI videos under my belt now and available for purchase, it’s still an incredibly common custom video request. And really, I don’t mind that too much. They’re typically very simple to film, and I know they will resell well! Many of my bestsellers, such as “Two Orgasm JOI“, are jerk off instruction videos.

Why is jerk off instruction so extremely popular?

So, why is it so damned popular?

I don’t have a penis myself to be jerking off, but I can speculate! If you’d like to share your opinion in the comments, especially as someone who enjoys jerk off instruction yourself, I will definitely be reading them and would love to know what you think!

My suspicion is that it just has to do with your normal, everyday male obsession with penis. No, really. Men are obsessed with their penises. Anyone who has ever had to deal with unsolicited dick pics on the regular would agree. Many women are constantly spammed with dick pics, because guys think that “wow, I love my penis, I bet she will too!” (spoiler alert: no.)

So, penis obsession is real. I’ll go more into that another day… How nice does it feel when someone is really interested in something you care a lot about? I think jerk off instruction is like that, especially when done live (Kik sessions) or it’s personal (custom videos)! You have a sexy woman like myself in front of you, talking about your dick, and telling you what to do with it. And then when there are two women in front of you (featuring TeenyGinger), telling you what to do? It’s practically game over, boys, y’all just lose your minds! I might think it’s a little silly, but I can understand the appeal.

Is it a fetish?

We’ve established why jerk off instruction is so popular, and how prevalent it really is. But is it actually a fetish? As I mentioned before, it’s a very frequent request I get in female domination phone calls… So many people must think it’s a fetish, right?

Personally, I would have to disagree. I do not believe it is a fetish. Almost everyone really wants something more similar to what I consider jerk off encouragement, which is more gentle. They just want the sexy woman telling them to touch their penis. They don’t necessarily want to be controlled, and they don’t want to do anything taboo.

Let’s take a look at one definition of the word fetish:

A form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.

https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/fetish

It is true that the gratification derived from jerk off instruction is typically linked to a particular part of the body; the penis. But is it abnormal? With the extreme popularity of it, and practically no stigma surrounding it, I would have to argue that JOI does not actually qualify as a fetish.

That being said… Jerk off instruction will still continue to be an extremely popular request, and I’m sure I will continue to put out lots of videos in that category, such as an Edging JOI!

Where to find more of me

I can be found on social media, as well as a bunch of clip stores, all listed below! If you enjoyed this article, please be sure to leave a comment, join my mailing list and get a free video, share it on social media, or even make a purchase!